![]() They treat their relationships/friendships with fellow Narcs in the same way they do Empaths i.e. going to lunch, using other people for a financial source whilst they work out what they are going to do next (work wise), indulge in substances such as alcohol and drugs, having or withholding intimacy, becoming aggressive unnecessarily and the list continues. They act stressed out by what has happenend and act incapacitated by the stress that they have been subjected too so that they can have time out or a ‘break’ so that they can use the people in their personal lives for support whilst being lazy and doing whatever they want to do i.e. ![]() Because they didn’t know what they were doing it is easy to don the mask of the victim. They bail leaving others to take responsibility for the financial, professional and emotional fall out and move on with their lives, with the exception of turning things around so that they look like they are the victim and hard done by. When things go wrong in the deal (because of their own inability to do their job or role in the venture ), the Narc blames everyone else for the venture going wrong by deflecting and not taking any responsibility. The only time Narcs can form a ‘relationship’ or ‘friendship’ is if they have a common goal such as a business venture but even then they concentrate on what their individual/personal end goal is, which is usually to the detriment of the other person or people involved in that arrangement/venture. It is similar to a fire that requires oxygen to continue to burn…… Narcissists are the same, they can’t get a supply from the other so they are of no use to each other. Don’t let him near your pouch.Ģ Narcs are unable to form or maintain a relationship due to their main requirement of a constant supply. When he sees you have built yours back up again, he will try and giggle your pouch to see whats in there. So he goes out and finds a new source of supply. But, he still needs to steal imaginary power from others in order to survive. After awhile of doing this you have no power left. ( there is no power in reality, only in a Narc’s head) Every time you react to him, you reach inside your pouch and give some of your power to him for his pouch. It is filled with all YOUR personal power. My therapist said it like this….Imagine a little pouch you carry on your side. try not reacting ….they have to resort to more serious means then. After all, that is what they live for! A reaction is a victory to them. Now that I look back at it I see that the bulk of my anger was not at him, it was at ME! At me for reacting to him and giving him all my power. He knew all my insecurities he put there and he played them all the time. I laughed in his face! You just can’t help it sometimes. I told my EX he was a pathological liar and he set back, crossed his legs, looked me straight in the eyes and said ” I have always been honest and straight forward with you” ” I think that may be your problem”
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